"That moment when you look at old pictures and wonder what ever happened to all of us.. why do we barley talk now? We are nearly strangers to one another when once we were the closest of friends.. I miss the way we all use to be.. I know we grow.. but why did we have to grow apart?"Sadly, this is a part of growing up (or old). When we leave high school and move away its often no easy to always be thinking of who you left behind, because life moves fast and its hard to keep up. This is because as you grow older you gain more responsibility. With more reponsiblity, the less time there is to do what you need to do.
So when we move away we start to learn more and more about ourselves and what we want to do with our lives. With some people they find that they want to do something completely different that their original plan. Then they might change that plan a millions times before they find exactly what is right for them. Other people know right from the start what they want to do and they go out and get that. The great part about growing old is finding yourself. People say you do that in high school, but I disagree. I say you find yourself after. In high school there is so much pressure to be one thing or another. There is also always someone there to hold your hand and help you through. After high school, theres so much less pressure. Its almost like you get to breathe your own air for the first time! Does that not feel awesome! I certainly thought so! However, if your a homebody, that fresh air might just suffocate you! That's okay though! That just means your not ready yet, everyone gets ready in there own time, some faster than others and some slower. As long as you go at your own pace you will be just fine. So for those of you who loved that first breath you will enjoy no one there to hold your hand and helping you. This relates back to responsibility. Some people love it and they seem to have all the time in the world.
Now your probably wondering how that last paragraph has anything to do with friendship? Well I'm getting there...
So, lets say your at the point in your life when you have just graduated high school. This is when YOU as a member of the human species start to change into the kind of person you will be for the rest of your life. It may not seem like it at the time, but that is only because this change takes a really long time. By that I mean this change can take years! Again, this is different for some people. Some only take a few years, others can take there whole life.
Alright, now this is where I tie this into friendship.
So after high school everyone moves, leaves, goes to college, and/or just changes in general. So what happens to all those friends you left? Well, for one, they are NEVER forgotten. It may seem that they forget about you, but it only seems that way because they are caught in their new responsibilities. Time seems less and less while the responsibilities are like rabbits in a breeding frenzy!
There is also the notion that your friends have changed so much they are not the same or maybe they do not like you anymore. WRONG! This change is the one thing that makes you go back and want to spend time with your high school friends! Yes, the change is good, even great. However, when you go through a change there is always that part of you that wants to go back. This is where your high school friends help. As soon as you are with your old friends every part of you that has changed goes back to your old self. You start talking, acting, and just be a goofy like old times! Its like an addiction. When you have not had it in a long time you really really want it/need it! Unlike most addictions its safe to go back! When you do go back the first two minutes or so feel a bit weird because it does take time to transition back to your old self but then once you do... hold on tight because your going down memory lane!
So do not feel bad that you have grown apart, because as soon as your back together its like you never left. It's just a natural part of life that everyone eventually goes through. <3
